THIS NEW YEAR, DON'T RAPE US...

(On behalf of million scared and disturbed soul, that belong to the fairer sex... )

Well, it’s been really really long, that I haven’t updated my blog, or have written (or scribble) anything, anywhere… I’m not sure why so, but, I know for a fact that it’s cuz I wasn’t able to find anything really inspiring that can leave me with no option other than putting it down on black and white… But then, as the year is coming to an end, and as I realize this is actually an end of a very very very disappointing year (at least for a huge bunch of people I know), I ended up deciding on the scribbling that I’m doing right now… It’s, as usual, not going to be something completely intellectual, and for that matter would be of no consequences for many, but, again as usual, it’s something that’s disturbing me from last couple of weeks… And, I find no other way to calming myself down than writing this, and yeah, posting on my social networking page… I know, I might land up in nothing in the receiving end of this, and might get no solution from what I scream out loud here, but still, I wish, just wish it would at least make me just rethink on the sad phase that I’m in these days… And thereby would help me take a fresh take on things I need to forget in order to be little happy in the new year…

Well, the demeaning events (or should I call them crippling nightmares) that have been taking place in the country I live in, are the sole source of the suffocation that has engulfed me these days… I was never a feminist, and I never intend to be one… The reason being, the society, the family I come from has never taught me to differentiate humanity on the basis of gender, and I always have cultivated the feeling of equality in my heart and soul, from the time I was a kid… But then, as and when I’ve grown to be a young lady who’s independent enough to stay away from her own family to fulfill her educational and professional needs, I started witnessing a different picture in the world we live in (or should I say the country I live in)… And, apparently that’s what reality is about… And, sadly enough, things seem to be never in anyone’s hand (at least not in those’ hand, who are at least meant to have them)… And, thereby all the screaming and shoutings that we make, all the cribbings that we do, all the protests that we hold, end up only in one thing… It’s NULL…

And, that is why, I’m writing this… To the ones who hold such demeaning motives towards us, ‘the women’… To the ones who think we deserve to be treated the way they do, to the ones who abuse us only cuz ‘we are the fairer sex’, to the ones who can’t see beyond the physical appearance of us, to the ones who fail to realize that one of us only had brought them to the beautiful world, and to the ones who fail to respect the very word ‘Humanity’…

Yeah, it’s an open letter to ‘All you, there’, who come in the bracket of doing things that in general bring down the standard of the human civilization…
Don’t you ever realize, that there are million other things in the world that could make you happy, rather than abusing and exploiting a female body… How do you fail to realize that we are one of the most beautiful creations of God… How do you afford to forget that the world that has given you the opportunity to enjoy its beauty, it was introduced to you by one of us… How difficult it gets for you to understand we’re as delicate as a flower when it comes to all the exploitation and abusals you carry on us… How do you not remember that someday even you would have a princessly daughter like us… How do you forget all the adulation that you had received from the likes of us in the form of your mother, sister, grand-ma, wife and lover… And most importantly, how do you not understand the basic fact of human civilization that we need to equi-live along side, and in a respected way, in order to sustain the so called civilization that we’re in…

Have you ever wondered, or bothered to wonder, how we’ve been raised by our parents… No matter how difficult it seemed, our Dads brought us up like a Princess… He never said a single demeaning and dis-respectful word to us during the course of our growing up days… He believed that we’re no less that our counterparts from the other sex, and hence we are treated never less… We are treated like the most delicate flowers when it comes to handling us, we are given the best of education possible by our parents, and we are taught traditions and cultures… We are taught to respect the elders, be equally competent with you, and also walk along with everyone else… Then, why do you think we can be treated the way you do… Do we deserve to be molested in public places… Do we deserve to be stripped by gangs and mobs… Where’s the respect we deserve, the respect with which we’ve been brought up, and the respect we can demand cuz in return of what we give…

Yes, we’re taught to be brave exactly like our counterparts… We’re taught to be capable of fighting with you for our rights, and we are taught to never let our share go cuz of you… But, along with all these, we are also taught to respect everyone, and be the strong base of a family… And hence, we never drift apart from carrying our responsibilities… That’s why, when we grow up we get married to one of you, be a wife, mother, and many other, in order to keep everyone happy… And, barring exceptions, we always carry each responsibility very well… Have you ever realized, in this course of converting ourselves from a strong independent daughter to a responsible multi-role-playing responsible woman, how much do we give in… Have you ever realized the depth of each sacrifice we make… Have you ever realized how broader a heart one requires to be a woman that she is… And, for all that, do we really deserve to be treated like an animal on roads… Do we deserve to face the brutality that you show us… Where’s the appreciation of all that we do for you, as your mother, as your sister and yes, as your wife???

You say, we make you get brutal with us… Do we really do that… We can never think of that… We’re delicate at heart… When you pain us, our heart gets cracked, it gets bruised… But the next moment, when you sweet-talk, we forget the pain and be there for you again… Doesn’t this make you realize how vulnerable we are… Yeah, we’re strong, but that’s to support you live your life, that’s to make sure that you don’t get weak, that’s to bring out the strength in you, in lesser words, that’s to take care of you… We condition ourselves, without the hint of complaints, in order to adapt to your faiths, beliefs, and life… Our only motive stays as making you happy… Don’t these say how delicate our hearts are… If we are the way we are, do you really think we invite you to trouble us, to be brutal with us… Don’t we deserve the same treatment that we give you… And, isn’t that more than enough for the non-violence we deserve from you…

You say, we don’t act proper to avoid the abusals and molestation from you… What make you believe that… Is it the way we smile, is it the way we talk, or is it the way we dress up… Do you know the facts… We believe in fantasy... We believe in the dreams we see, we believe that the world is a place that’s so beautiful and everything here has so much to offer… Yes, we wear pretty clothes, we get decked-up, and we wear make-up… Yeah, these are the small pleasures that we live for… What if we love wearing shorter clothes… What if we love flaunting our hair… What if we want to feel like an angel above the sky… That doesn’t say that we want you to be brutal with us… That doesn’t say that we want you to molest us on roads, and for that matter anywhere… Don’t we deserve to stay beautiful, at heart and in this wide open world…

Yeah, we want a little care, a little love and most importantly a little respect… Be a little tolerant towards us, at least for the sake of what we’ve been giving you all our lives… For the sake of the love that you’ve received from your mother, for the sake of the adulation you’ve received from you sister, and for the support that you’ve received from your partner… Yeah, be a little open to understand that we’re not just a physical commodity that you’ll manhandle, we’re not all flesh and bone that you would turn to a butcher, and yes, we’re far beyond being only a sexual object… We’re the ones who’re equally responsible for the world that’s existing today, we’re equally responsible for making the world beautiful, and we’re equally important to the society the way you are…

So, it’s a voice that comes straight from the heart, mine and of many alike’s, ‘US’… This new year, please don’t molest us… Please don’t trouble us on the dark road at 9 at night, please don’t eve-tease us, please don’t bully us, please don’t trouble us when we want to have a little fun with our friends, please leave us alone when we take a private bus, please don’t beat us up with iron roads, please don’t strip us, and most importantly please don’t rape us…